You might have seen TV adverts lately to boost understanding of the way we treat people coping with mental ill-health. Here’s my take on top five explanations why individuals don’t talk more freely concerning the issues involved.
Reason # 1: ‘Other people just don’t wish to know’
Frequently there is a type of conspiracy of silence around someone encountering a time of mental ill-health. Individuals are concerned about saying the incorrect factor, so that they don’t say anything, and also the person concerned seems like nobody wants to understand.
Reason 2: ‘Its like acknowledging you cannot cope’
Despite the fact that many people may be supportive, almost always there is somebody that gives that many unhelpful of advice – just pull yourself together – however that could be disguised! Unfortunately that whenever you are encountering mental ill-health, there’s that inner voice hammering away suggesting the identical factor.
Reason No 3: ‘You’re less inclined to have that promotion, job, insurance plan….’
It is true! Sadly, such may be the ignorance around mental ill-health there is really discrimination available. Should you disclose even consider your experience of mental ill-health, studies have shown that you are less inclined to be used than someone having a physical disability.
Reason No 4: ‘Losing touch with yourself’
Encountering a time of mental ill-health could be devastating to someone’s self esteem. Coping systems used before no more appear to operate, it feels as though you are not really exactly the same person. Indicating this with other people, even going to ourselves, can be very difficult. Apparently our most typical reactions to worry will be to ‘do nothing, just accept it’, ‘eat comfort or junk food’ or ‘spend time alone’ (Be Conscious stress survey) – all methods to positively worsen our mental wellbeing, not improve it.
Reason No 5: ‘People don’t understand how to help’
Such is our desire not to discuss the problems, even someone with an advanced of mental wellbeing is not likely to be aware what they are doing to keep it. We behave as if our mental health was in some way circumstantial and beyond our control. Imagine getting a discussion about someone’s poor health or illness, and getting no clue what factors can improve our health. This is not about medical training, it comes down to common understanding. If a person is encountering mental ill-health, everything does indeed feel unmanageable and individuals we all know feel helpless too.
We are all greater than conscious of the generalizations and prejudice which surround mental ill-health. Who would like to recognize that? Actually it is a question anybody discusses mental health whatsoever!
Carolyn Barber, Bsc (Hons), CQSW, may be the founding father of Wayfinder Associates, a social care training and working as a consultant business specialising in team building events, independent supervision and staff wellbeing. Like a serial social entrepreneur, Carolyn is promoting community based programmes to advertise knowledge of mental wellbeing using positive solution focused approaches.
Carolyn has over 3 decades experience of social care as specialist, trainer, investigator and manager, working across public, voluntary and independent industries.